Grief Becomes Purpose: 9/11 Stories with Ann Van Hine and Holly Little
Two women in this community lost family on September 11, 2001. One published her book about it in 2021. The other publishes hers today, on the twenty fifth anniversary.
Twenty years apart. Same day, same loss, two different answers to when a person is ready.
Alexa recorded this one without a script, and she says so out loud partway through, after losing her own thread: “You may have noticed I’m doing this one off the cuff. I didn’t script it because I really want to just talk from the heart.”
What she wants to talk about is Ann Van Hine, whose husband Bruce responded with the FDNY and never came home, and Holly Little, whose brother Todd died that day. Both of them wrote a book. Neither book came fast. And both of them did the second thing, the one we tend to run out of steam for after the writing is done.
Three threads follow. What Ann did with a life that fell apart in public. What Holly did with twenty five years of waiting. And the argument Alexa makes about both of them, which applies to your book too, whatever it is about.
Quick answer: On the 25th anniversary of 9/11, Alexa honors two authors in the Women in Publishing community. Ann Van Hine lost her firefighter husband that day and wrote Pieces Falling. Holly Little lost her brother and publishes her memoir today, 25 years later.
This one is for anyone carrying a story they have not written yet, and for any author who has published a hard book and cannot get anyone to see it. No experience level assumed.
How Do You Commemorate the Past While Also Creating Space for Your Future?
Bruce Van Hine was a firefighter. He responded. He did not come home. Ann was left with two young daughters and a life that no longer resembled the one she had planned.
Alexa describes what came next as a question rather than a process: “Ann’s journey from that point in time very much began one of how to cope with life when the pieces just fall around you and how you rebuild after such a tragedy.”
And then the question that sits at the center of Ann’s book, which Alexa reads out because it is the one she has spent her own career circling: “How do you commemorate the past while also creating space for your future?”
She does not let that pass as someone else’s problem. “I know that’s something that I’ve written about a lot to grieving moms,” she says. “The last journal that I did was Permission to Thrive, right? Because that’s an important question.”
Alexa’s publishing career started after she lost her daughter. She wrote for grieving mothers first and built everything else on top of that. So when she talks about Ann’s book, she is not describing a genre she admires from the outside.
Part of Ann’s answer came through work. Since 2006 she has been a docent at the 9/11 Tribute Museum, and when the Nonfiction Authors Association asked what inspired her to write the book, that is where she started. Alexa quotes the answer: “Since 2006, I had been volunteering as a docent at the 9/11 Tribute Center Museum and realized the importance of humanizing history.”
Humanizing history.
Because here is what happens to a day like September 11 as it recedes. It becomes a number. Two thousand nine hundred and seventy seven people. Then a set of images everyone has seen. Then a date on a calendar with a moment of silence attached.
The work of a memoir is to put one man’s name back on it, Bruce, a firefighter with two daughters and a wife who is still here.
The Story Did Not End That Day, and Neither Did the Dying
There is a reason these books keep finding new readers rather than aging out.
More than 9,400 people have now died of illnesses linked to 9/11, according to recently published World Trade Center Health Program data. That is roughly three times the number killed in the attacks themselves. The program was still caring for more than 144,000 responders and survivors as of the middle of this year.
Twenty five years on, this is not a closed historical event with a fixed casualty list. It is an ongoing one, and there are tens of thousands of families somewhere on the same road Ann has been walking since 2001.
Alexa puts the widow’s version of that risk in one line. Ann’s book, she says, “speaks to anyone who has survived the loss of someone, particularly in 9/11, and just the danger that goes around with being a first responder’s wife every day.”
That risk runs every day of a career, not just the day it comes due.
This Just Isn’t a Book With a Beautiful Cover That Nobody Knows About
Alexa googled Ann the morning she recorded this.
“I encourage you to Google Ann Van Hine after this,” she says, “and you will see all of the accolades, the interviews, the information, the context about her story and her book that is out there.”
She found something new while she was there. Ann had recently received a five star best book review from Chanticleer Book Reviews, which happens to be one of the Women in Publishing sponsors. “And these are out there when people are Googling you,” Alexa says. “People will see these things.”
A review outlives the week you got it, sitting in the search results whenever a reader, a producer, a librarian or a conference organizer types your name.
“What I really love about Ann and her story is that she is implementing all the things to make sure that this just isn’t a book with a beautiful cover that’s on Amazon that nobody knows about.”
Ann speaks to groups. She pitches her own story. She does interviews on websites and in the media. She has told it in Ireland, Belgium, England, and Japan. “This is how you amplify your message,” Alexa says. “This is how you make sure that your story doesn’t get lost.”
And then, because she is being honest rather than tidy: “And it’s hard and it takes work and you’ve got to just push through it.”
She also makes a confession on air and turns it into a commitment. “My regret is that I haven’t interviewed Ann yet. I need to fix that in this next year.” Then, directly to Ann: “Hope you’re listening and hold me to it. Hit me up. Let’s do this.”
It Took 25 Years for Her to Finally Get the Book Together
The second author is newer to Alexa. They met online through a media event, then sat down together in person in New York City.
Holly Little is a lawyer, a mother, and a Bible teacher. Her brother Todd was killed on September 11. And her book, 9/11: Reflections of the Past 25 Years, publishes on the anniversary itself.
Alexa reads the description, and it contains the phrase that ended up naming this episode: “Through Todd’s story, readers are invited to discover how grief can become purpose, how faith can sustain us when answers do not come, and why remembering still matters.”
Grief can become purpose. Alexa runs it straight through all three of them, Ann, Holly, and herself: “just like Ann, and just like my story starting out there with the loss of my daughter.”
“For Holly, it took 25 years for her to finally get the book together and out for a lot of different reasons.”
Twenty five years is how long it took her to be able to write about her brother, which is a different thing from a missed deadline. If you are carrying something you have not written yet, and you have been treating that as evidence of a personal failing, Alexa’s line is the correction: “sometimes it takes a long time.” The book comes out when you can write it, and it reaches someone then.
None of Us Escapes Grief
Then Alexa widens it out past September 11, and this is where the episode starts working for people with no connection to that day at all.
“One thing is certain, and we hope it won’t be ever another event like 9/11, but none of us escapes grief. None of us escapes losing someone.”
That is why Alexa keeps circling back to books as the delivery mechanism. Not as a product. As the thing that reaches a person who thinks they are the only one.
“We love to know that we’re not alone in our journey,” she says. “We love to hear about brave people. We love to see an underdog win.”
Then, on what authors are for, whatever the genre:
“We bring people into the world of our book and we share with them. We teach, we provide empathy, we give insights into worlds and places and stories and people that we might not ever be exposed to if it weren’t for books. We are able to change people’s lives and change people’s perspectives and give hope and give encouragement.”
She closes the episode with a list of who she is remembering. The people she served with. The people in the towers. Flight 93. The passengers on the other flights who may never have known what was happening. The families. And the service members who died in the wars that followed, or who came home and did not survive what came home with them.
“Let us never forget.”
Then the practical charge, which is the one she actually wants you to act on: “Your words have power. They have incredible power. But the power is only as good as how many people actually see those words.”
What’s Next?
If this episode named something you have been carrying, the room where that turns into a plan is Stages and Pages 2026, October 15 to 17 in San Antonio at the Sol Cypress Hotel on the River Walk.
It is the Women in Publishing in-person conference, built in collaboration with April Adams Pertuis of LIGHTbeamers, whose keynote development program Alexa went through as a student. Alexa brings the publishing expertise, April brings the speaking expertise, and the whole thing is aimed at exactly the author in this episode: “if you have a big story and a big mission and you’re trying to get more visibility around that, you’re trying to speak more, you’re trying to get out there and do the things, you need to be at Stages and Pages.”
General admission is $497 and covers two days of keynotes, teaching panels, implementation tracks, the author showcase wall, sponsor expo, hot seat coaching, and the workbook. VIP is $1,497 and adds the Saturday implementation day, the Thursday River Walk dinner, priority sponsor meetings, and front row seating. GA is capped at 100 seats and VIP at 20. Payment plans are available.
One date that matters this week: the hotel room block closes September 15, 2026.
Three things to do this week:
- Buy both books, today if you can. Pieces Falling by Ann Van Hine and 9/11: Reflections of the Past 25 Years by Holly Little. If you have already read them, leave the review instead. If neither is in the budget, share the links. Alexa is explicit that this is the assignment: “help us amplify and share these important stories.”
- Google yourself the way a stranger would. Open a private window and search your own name plus your book title. Whatever comes back is what a producer or an event organizer sees. If there is room on that page, the next thing to go after is a review, an interview, or a pitch, not another draft.
- Name the story you have not written yet. Write one sentence describing it and put it where you will see it. You are not behind. Holly took twenty five years.
Alexa signs off the episode with “you’ve got this, and we’ve got you,” which is the closest thing Women in Publishing has to a house motto. On this particular anniversary she means the second half of it more than the first.
Cheering you on, Alexa
Alexa Bigwarfe is the founder of Women in Publishing and the Women in Publishing Summit, a book marketing strategist, and the host of Alexa’s Publishing Chat.
Frequently Asked Questions
What are the best memoirs written by 9/11 families?
On Alexa’s Publishing Chat’s 25th anniversary episode, Alexa Bigwarfe features two. Pieces Falling: Navigating 9/11 with Faith, Family, and the FDNY is Ann Van Hine’s account of losing her husband Bruce, an FDNY firefighter, and raising their two daughters in the years after. 9/11: Reflections of the Past 25 Years is Holly Little’s memoir about her brother Todd, published on the 25th anniversary itself. Both look past the statistics to individual lives. Listen to the full episode on Alexa’s Publishing Chat wherever you get your podcasts.
How long should I wait before writing about a traumatic loss?
As long as it takes, according to Alexa Bigwarfe on Alexa’s Publishing Chat. She sets two authors side by side: Ann Van Hine published Pieces Falling in 2021, while Holly Little needed 25 years before her book was ready. Alexa’s position is that a long delay is not a failure of discipline, it is the time required to be able to write the thing at all, and a book that arrives late still arrives when some reader needs it. Hear the full conversation on Alexa’s Publishing Chat.
Is it selfish to write a memoir about my own loss?
This is the misconception Alexa Bigwarfe pushes back on in this episode of Alexa’s Publishing Chat. “When you write a book like this sometimes you feel like it’s just about yourself,” she says, “but the truth is this book speaks to anyone who is trying to pick up the pieces after a significant and unexpected loss.” She points out that Ann Van Hine’s book reaches first responder spouses, anyone grieving a sudden death, and readers who want the history humanized. Listen on Alexa’s Publishing Chat.
How do you market a memoir so it actually reaches readers?
Alexa Bigwarfe uses Ann Van Hine as the working example on Alexa’s Publishing Chat. Ann speaks to groups, pitches her own story, does interviews on websites and in the media, and has collected reviews and awards including a five star best book review from Chanticleer. Alexa’s framing is that those credentials are what a reader, producer, or event organizer finds when they search your name. “The power is only as good as how many people actually see those words.” Full episode on Alexa’s Publishing Chat.
Who should listen to this 9/11 episode of Alexa’s Publishing Chat?
Anyone who lost someone on September 11, anyone writing a memoir about grief or trauma, first responder families, and indie authors trying to build visibility for a book with a heavy subject. Alexa Bigwarfe hosts this one unscripted, drawing on her own service in the Air Force in 2001 and her work writing for grieving mothers. It runs about fifteen minutes. Find it on Alexa’s Publishing Chat.
Sources cited and linked:
- World Trade Center Health Program data via ABC News, September 2026, for the 9,400+ deaths from 9/11-related illness, the comparison to the 2,977 killed in the attacks, and current enrollment: https://abcnews.com/Health/after-thousands-deaths-responders-navigating-health-effects-25/story?id=136210477
- Pieces Falling publication year and publisher confirmed via library catalog records: Illumify Media, 2021, ISBN 9781955043229
- Ann Van Hine’s biographical details, docent role, and international speaking, confirmed via her published author bio
- Stages and Pages 2026 dates, pricing, venue, and seat caps, confirmed by Alexa.

Alexa Bigwarfe
Founder & CEO of WritePublishSell & the Women in Publishing Summit
Alexa Bigwarfe is a publishing strategist and creator of Book Launch in a Box, where she helps authors simplify their marketing and build launches that actually work. She specializes in turning books into platforms for visibility, partnerships, and revenue through proven, scalable strategies.
